These are the worst handshakes you should avoid.
1. The Wet Fish
That “sloppy dishcloth” handshake?
It says that the person is weak in character, cold and insincere.
Cultural reasons can also explain why it is done. In Asian and African cultures, it is a sign of respect. It can be offensive to give a firm handshake.
When shaking hands, always consider the individual and their situation. A young African woman would shake hands with an older, more traditional African man client. A limp handshake would be acceptable. A young African woman holding hands with an older white male manager.
2. The Finger-Tip Grab or “Fingerella”
A female greeting is usually a gentle gesture. It is a result of outdated social expectations that women should shake hands gently.
It says that I am not interested in the situation. I’d rather do something else. Also, it conveys weakness, uncertainty and pretense.
3. The Bone-Crusher
Once, a client gave me the bone crusher. It broke every nail on my hands!
It means that the person wants to control the situation. They are insecure and try to make up with a brutal handshake.
You can do this: If you are a colleague, make sure they know it. Say “Ouch..that hurt Me. Your grip is too strong.”
4. Two-handed handshake
You can create a comfortable enclosure by combining your hands with the other person’s.
It is nurturing, friendly, kind, caring, sympathetic. This handshake can also be referred to as “Politician”‘s”. It is someone who should not be trusted. Avoid this handshake in business unless you are sure the other person understands its meaning. Acceptable in African culture.
5. Handle for the Gas Pump
It is enough to shake hands with someone for 2/3 of the time. This can make the other person feel uncomfortable because they don’t know when it is time to let go.
You can do this: Move into the personal space of the person and then lower your hand. This almost forces an immediate release.
Handshakes between men and women
Men shouldn’t be afraid of giving a woman a firm handshake, as long as it isn’t a bone-crushing one. Women should shake hands with men with strength and no dead fishes.
The Perfect Handshake
Point the web of your hands straight at the web (between your thumbs and forefinger), of the other person.
Make sure the webs contact one another.
Place your fingers on the back of the hand of the other person. You can do two to three pumps.
This handshake assures:
You feel secure and strong when you have a firm grip.
Warmth is conveyed through a “wrap around” feeling.
Practice your handshake with friends and colleagues to get feedback and practice.
Give the right handshake to make sure you leave a lasting impression the moment you meet someone. Have a happy handshake
